I've heard it dozens of times in various permutations over the years: "Wow...there's no way I could ever do what you do/you've done. But I, uh, do respect that everyone has a right to their choices.... "
And maybe I'm being a little sensitive. I keep hearing my mother's voice: "Oh, myrealname-ie, you're so SENSITIVE." Well, yeah, Mom, may you rest in peace, I am. It's one of my gifts.
So whenever someone says this to me, even though I know they mean it nicely, even though they would deny any judgement, I hear it. It's subtle, wrapped in nice words, but its there. I don't get defensive, I don't get upset, I just notice in an "isn't this interesting" sort of way. And I can't help but wonder what the big fucking deal is about accepting money for sex. What is it inside people that makes them judge, or let's say "feel uncomfortable" about this? What's the emotional hook?
Let's just call this Gillette's Theory Of Whore-enomics.
Money's weird when you stop and think about it. Well, when I stop and think about it, anyway. Here we've created this fiction/fantasy world where we arbitrarily assign value to services and things we create. We build value upon fantasy value and there's very little backing it up- just some gold that's got arbitrarily assigned value that arbitrarily fluctuates on daily basis. In the meantime, there's funny money everywhere. I had no idea the extent that the world economy is a very tenuous house of cards that continues to build and grow out of control. This house built on noodles starts out on a very big scale and meanders its way down the foodchain to you and me. I've thought money was weird for years. But, after what I've seen these past two years and the way the Very Big Boys play, that knowledge paled in comparison to the fantasy world that I now know. It makes no sense to me at all. Nope. None. The only thing that does make sense to me and has been reinforced times ten, is that it isn't real except that we make it so. We created it, we sustain it, we get all caught up in it, egos ride on it, people fight over it and in the end it's a game of dust.
I think it time to interject here that the truth is I don't study traditional economic theory. I've studied the basics but other than that I'm Not Interested. I feel it, ponder what I call "the energy" of it as I observe it in life. So an economist or other smart person might tell me I'm talking out my butt. And I would say thanks for your opinion and go on with my theory, like pretty much everything else in life. Or...it could be that others have thought of this, too (I'm sure VJ will know, wink, wink, smooch) and I'm speaking the obvious to many. I have heard pieces and parts in woowooland. Very seldom does anyone have a totally original idea. But I came to this on my own, just by watching.
To my mind, money is just the symbolic representation we have given to the exchange of energy units. As this is a blog post, let's keep it simple and keep this discussion about services and money.
In this country, we have decided certain jobs are worth more than others and we compensate them more. Remember: the value assignments are arbitrary. No one job has any more intrinsic value other than what we give it. I find it very interesting that the professions that include emotion, caring or Spirit have less assigned value in our economy than ones based on rational thought. There are the obvious ones that feminists have been shouting about for years: motherhood, teaching, day care. I will add few of my own that I have personally experienced. Midwifery was an interesting one. We provided at least four times as much care, got involved in families lives, put more of ourselves into it emotionally and charged a fraction of the price of a hospital birth. And still I had people who didn't want to pay me. One person told me I shouldn't even be asking for money--that I should feel blessed that they asked me to their birth. Would they say the same thing to a hospital? Another example: I decided to offer an expanded version of rituals that I had previously shared out of love for a group of friends. I decided to open it up to a larger audience and treat it like a workshop. I got blasted by a few Speerchul Snoots about my audacity for charging for Spiritual work. Ok, then.
And then in walks sex, #1 potential button pusher of all times. Sex is merely another form of energetic exchange. We decide to have sex for a reason...we want something out of this (= the energetic exchange). Sex works best when both parties' energetic intentions are in alignment. For instance, if one person is looking for a fuckbuddy and the other is looking for love, the alignment can lead to pain for one and, often, lots of emotional flotsom and jetsom for both.
This is one reason why I feel that the exchange of money for sex, in its essential nature, is so clean. Both parties are clear in their intention. It's simple to me. Maybe this is why I have no problems with it. Here is sex, an energetic exchange of one sort or another. Here is money, a mutually agreed upon symbol of energetic exchange. The energetics get exchanged. What's the big fucking deal here?
The BFD is emotions and the meaning we give sex and money. Money, in its essence, is an energetic exchange. But we as humans give more meaning than that to it. It's about feeling abundant, safety, security, value, freedom, ego identity, power and status. It's the "root of all evil," yet also taken as a sign of being one of the Divinely "chosen." Sex isn't just two bodies coming together. We give it meaning, deep meaning in our lives. I've said it before on here: there's nothing on this planet that encompasses life as it does with its leather and lace, divine ecstatic union and snuff films, expression of deep marital love and total dehumanized fuckfests. We all have our relationship with it and the unique meaning it has for us. And even within ourselves that meaning can change in different circumstances and/or over time.
Is it the last vestiges of the ancestral demonization of sex that we haven't completely let go of yet? Is it an outdated tape of the sacredness of sex in marriage only and the dirtiness of money? Is it that it's a deep belief that this form of sex is not about love...and sex "should be..." but when money's applied there's no denying what this is? Is it the old feminist argument that in the Patriarchy, everything having to do with Earth and the female body is somehow perverse? What is it? There's an emotional hook there that makes no sense to me the harder I look at it. The only thing that makes sense is what I feel are the energies of the deep psyche in every instance: when something is this strong a taboo, with no logical explanation, it's because it's triggering some primal fear.
My guess is that, at the root, the reasons for societal discomfort comes from our relationship both with sex and with money on a macro and micro level. It has something to do with the energetics of sex and money as they live deep inside our psyches. We've given both an arbitrary meaning/value first alone and then combined. Personally, I feel it has to do more with our unhealed or unacknowledged relationships with both sex and money. But then, again, I'm just a whore.
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Spot on, Gillette! Though I'm still stunned by the revelation that someone wouldn't want to pay their midwife. I'm a big proponent of midwifery, which is just one more reason why I think you're amazing:)
In my estimation, regardless of what services you are offering at the moment, you're not getting paid ENOUGH!
I struggle with money a lot more than sex. I think getting paid to have sex would be great, personally. My problem is that I tend to get stuck in a poverty consciousness. I'm frugal to a fault, sometimes. While this is pragmatic at my income level, I'd like to be more generous, both with my time and my money.
I wish I had attained my current level of sexual liberation when I was much younger. I think I would have been a great whore:)
Hi Gillette -
I like how you bring up touchy subjects. This is a good one.
You are so right about money being a symbolic representation. In fact, if we valued trees, land or resources and equated those things as “money” our lives would be so very different. Unfortunately, we have placed a huge value on money. Our relationship with sex is the root of the problem. When we go back in history and look at how sex was looked upon, you can see how different the Greeks were from the Romans, from the Etruscans and so on.
We are finally in somewhat of a state of liberation and yet, sex for money is taboo. I find it equally frustrating the word “whore.” Whore and money seem to generate the same derogatory inference. If you take money for sex, you are a whore. If you are a whore, then you sell your body for money. How stupid is all this? If we did not have the religious constipation we would be able to have a better relationship with sex. Thus, unhappy marriages, relationships and just plain old appetites provide a demand for sex and since it is taboo to just have sex with whomever if you are in a relationship, then that person has to go buy it in secrecy.
So why can’t we get over it and just approach this as business? What is wrong with selling sex? It will always be in our world so why not legalize it? Why not recognize it for the benefits this type of transaction and exchange provides? Imagine how the industry would change by ripping off the cover of secrecy, “dirty,” crummy neighborhoods where this industry must practice?
What do consultants do? Sell their time, advice, ideas and expertise. What the heck is the difference? We are sex consultants aren’t we?
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!! What the hell is so wrong with an equal exchange, with clear understanding from both parties as to the services being received/given! Growing up, I don't remember ever having a prejudice against prostitutes, but certainly I was told to. And then...and then I started venturing into this world myself and I realized even more so what a pitty it is that people can be so ashamed of their desires and truths. If you are being true to yourself, not causing anyone to become ill with intention, and you are fulfilling your soul...move with what your mind and body tell you. Unfortunately, many of us fear happiness.
Wow. You're pretty smart for a whore. ;)
Seriously, well thought, well explained. Personally, I think people are just hard-wired to be judgmental about that which they don't understand. I have the same sensitivity to those who say they understand my choice to have extramarital sex, but of course, they'd never do it themselves. They haven't walked in my shoes, so they clearly have no idea what they would do. Judgmental, even when not intended to be so.
Hey! I've tagged you!
Isn't the whole point of "Paradise by the Dashboard Light," and in fact most marriages prior to the 70's, to get the man to give up half his salary in exchange for sex? So why do people who make stupid comments like that to you get squeamish about the exchange again?
Because we're not really talking about sex, but love, right? What exactly is love, then? I've certainly seen my share of marriages with less love in them than the affection I'v gotten from an hour with a bodyrub girl.
Oh, it's about emotional intimacy? We're not supposed to exchange money for that? Hmmm. Ever paid a therapist, bartender, or hairdresser to listen to you?
I guess I don't get it either. But I'm just a Perv.
Really fantastically written. I've pondered the arbitrary ways of money and how very odd it is that society has arranged this twisted hierarchy of whom is 'worth more' than whom. It all seems quite silly when you break it down like you have here.
I can't speak about matters of sex and money, at least not with any direct authority. However, I found your post fascinating and really enjoyed reading it. I think that your observations and conclusions on the matter are quite accurate, so thank you for sharing them.
Shasta
You know, I was in bed thinking about your post and realized that sex has been a commodity for centuries. It is used in every faction of work; to get information, to get promotions, to steal wives or husbands, to pay for plumbing repairs and on and on. So what the hell is the problem with selling sex? Sex is used to get anywhere, somewhere and everywhere in fact, it is possible that it has a higher value than money because it is almost priceless in what it can provide.
You have given me food for thought and I'm still thinking about it now. Guess I should get to bed and turn off my brain.
Again G, thanks for your inspiring posts.
Ciao
Alexa
Geez, I even get my own wink here. I wonder why... This is a complex topic that can be made a bit more simple. There's the history of money, finance & power & states see for example the masterful ["The Cash Nexus: Money and Power in the Modern World, 1700-2000" by Niall Ferguson]. Mr. Ferguson, as is typical for the genre is a bit more conservative than my tastes might like.
At the base, we're talking about her is the operational definition of money, which one economic wag put it as 'liquid desire'. It is the commonly agreed upon currency for which we pay for our dreams, wants, needs & desires. Or as the late Peter Sellers would put it, 'People will slog though sh*t for a few bob'. This is true. They DO have an underwater specialty of actually diving into municipal waste treatment ponds to clean them out of debris. (There's often no other way to do this, other than emptying the entire facility, which of course is an impossibility). The going rate for such an impossible job is a high union scale wage, but most people would not do it for almost any amount of love or money. Similar jobs have been made famous by various cable TV show highlighting such blighted jobs & horrid working conditions. Almost all are for low or middling wages for grueling and often disgusting or very hazardous work. Riding 'shotgun' in a Halliburton supply convoy in Iraq used to pay American subcontractors some 100K a year or slightly more. It was highly dangerous, they ran low on 'volunteers' and now they hire mostly foreign nationals for a fraction of the previous costs. (Sounds familiar, right?) Yep, outsourcing affects almost everyone.
So where were we? I've said this before in similar contexts, but despite all the hype, extensive history of prejudice, persecution, prosecution, hatred and misinformation, prostitution is about contacts & labor. It's about the very basic human & legal right to make, keep and enforce a contract for your labor with another party. It's really as simple as that. For all the over analysis of issues of consent and of impaired/informed judgment, for any adult woman or man it's about the ability to sell their labor & effort (and yes it IS that) to another person or persons for an agreed upon compensation. And the fact that any society might outlaw the peaceful & Consensual transaction of such services to another I think always has brought us closer to tyranny & the rule by blighted moralistic autocrats. It really should be none of anyone's business as long as the parties are 1.) consenting Adults and 2.) no one is being substantially harmed. (Some might quibble on #2, but there's other legal considerations at play in that).
So some feminists and other moralists might insist that against the testimony of the woman or man in question (the one selling their services), that harm IS being done to them, although they may not know it just yet. And up to a point we might agree with them. But so does signing up for the military. Hard rock mining is statistically more dangerous in most Western contexts. Ditto for many police and firemen. All dangerous jobs and livelihoods. How do we reconcile their eager willingness to expose themselves to greater dangers for what amounts to a pittance really, by comparison to many of the other jobs in the community? Who gets to decide this? What masterful wizard can sit in judgment of men & women who sell sex services, and not say someone else selling guns or beer, cigarettes & liquor to the community? The latter will kill & injure more people in any community than all the whores who ever existed in any given zip code.
Ah they moralists will cry then. What about their Souls? Won't it affect their souls, to be filled with such negative shame & humiliation? Sure it always does affect people deeply, as it will in most jobs too. And I'll then know that they've never known the shame & humiliation of poverty. The grinding hopelessness of wondering when the power will be shut off, the terrors of not having enough food or milk for the children. People have done & will continue to do many unpleasant tasks that might be wholly unknown to the largely White middle class elites who pose as our moral superiors. They pick through garbage in most of the larger slums of the world. That's a huge viable industry almost everywhere there's mass poverty.
There's so many life situations & that are less than perfect for a variety of reasons, causes and fortunes & misfortunes. No one should have the right to stand in judgment of anyone's livelihood, the way they cope with their world or come to understand & better live in it, as long as no one is being harmed, and the contracts are between consenting adults. It's as simple as that. (And I might add this was completely obvious to me from a very early age).
Cheers & Good Luck! 'VJ'
Good Morning Gillette my dear!!
If you(I) could not do "it", how much can we really respect someone else doing "it"? Profound question that leads me to believe you are correct. There is an ingrained sense of judgment towards others in that statement.
In thinking of when I have made/thought those words I must look within and acknowledge my own judgment of others actions and my reaction.
Sex and Money - The two "things" that bring out both the best and the worst in humankind. They are arguably the two most powerful forces our human race ever encounter. Both provide immense power to those who have them and great despair to those who do not have them.
The combination of the two creates a force unmatched by any and feared by all. Humanity has spent an eternity trying to keep these forces repressed or controlled by those who fear its strength. Hence the ingrained emotional anguish as we try to keep the division of "church and state" per se.
I just had my initial Business Ethics class last night and much of our insight into "what is ethics" you have captured today. A classic illustration of cognitive dissonance and why we struggle with it so.
History is littered with examples of individuals who have thought to themselves after their tragic ending "How can I desire something so much that I am willing to destroy everything around me to attain it". Because Money and Sex are that powerful - that's why.
With the small glimpse of you attained through these pages I am not at all surprised. You are a Courtesan in every sense of the word: educator, coach, mentor, therapist, cheerleader, lover, partner, philosopher.
Just a whore?!? - Certainly Not!
* Extraordinary Whore - Perhaps
* Phenomenal Whore - Likely
* Flexible Whore - Hopeful
Amazingly Open, Warm, Truthful and Dignified Woman - Absolutely.
Hi, Ruby- Nia told me that there are women in their 80's who are whores over in London...so never too late!! Whatever the market will bear, heheheheh....
Hi, Alexa- I've embraced the word "whore" and have learned to like it. I like shifting shame to pride and am using it that way these days. Since I made that decision it's felt really good.
I'm not sure if legalizing it will make it more socially acceptable. I think it goes deeper than just "the law." I do think it would be safer for the women both emotionally and physically if legal, but I'm not too sure yet about the social accptance. Remember that in Asia where this sort of thing has been much more open for a very long time, "hostesses" are still not socially accepted.
Hi, Ms. Beautiful Face- Yes...pleasure heals, and it's amazing to me how we fight it.
Sometimes I think the world is upside down..that most everything we see as "normal" or "politically correct" just masks what's morally "correct"....that it's us freaks that are living the truth. Or ours anyway.
Hey, Fille...thanks. Will do my meme part and thanks for the nod.
I agree...and I think the judgement comes from fears. If you do what they are afraid to do (what you want) then this makes them have to look at how miserable they choose to stay. And that would be my Jungian analysis of the collective unconscious for the day.
Really, Perv...exactly. And that is a whole other topic. Somehow because it's love not only is it OK but expected that the wife gets half. As the Old Guy used to say: "You may be expensive, but you'll never be as expensive as a wife." I had some guys also joke that their wives were an average of $5000 a fuck. Again, it's something about the emotions.
Thanks for stopping by and for your comment, Shasta. Welcome here.
Yeah..I came to that one day when I was watching a bunch of mexicans working in a hot field, bent over row crops, weeding. Who the hell would do that work and do it as well. And we arbitrarily pay them nothing for this awful work. It's pretty random if you ask me.
Hi, VJ- your wink was because you know stuff about so many topics, I thought if this was old news I could count on you to let me know.
It's the considerations of the moralists that I'm most curious about here. And those who might not go as far as the moralists but who have negative gut reaction and judgment about someone being willing to take money for sex. I see it even in liberated sluts. They will sleep with tons of men and women, not even knowing their names, but bring up the topic of getting money from it and they recoil (physically...I've seen them do it). They make a point of the distinction in what they do and what a whore does. What's that about?
Thank you for this post. Its a good one....and for the first time, I'll admit aloud that I had begun a discussion with a man who wanted me to be his courtesan and tantra teacher. I agreed...It didn't work out because he couldn't believe that I might actually care about his welfare. He acted like such an ass about it, that I refused any further contact with him....
I had some serious difficulty in reaching a place where I felt I could be priestess with someone I didn't love and wasnt physically attracted to in exchange for money and the opportunity to support someone's growth.
I faced all that stuff...and it was very freeing...but I was mighty annoyed with his behavior over the whole thing.
I wouldn't for a moment have considered it prior to his presence in my life, but I gave it my attention in a serious way...even with my husband's blessing if that's what I wanted to do.
I haven't sought it since then...so that possibility has never manifested in my life. I am not available to such an exchange these days anyway per agreements with M...but with the right person or people...I would deeply enjoy the work....and it would be very healing to me and my relationship with money as well. *smiles*
Thanks, Kahuna..your class sounds like grand fun. I think we were both writing comments at the same time and yours got in the queue before mine.
Sex and money are hugs issues. They along with issues around "death" are considered in spiritual circles to be the three biggies. They all have to do with triggering issues of worthiness, safety, and help the ego to feel at ease/don't threaten its needs. When followed to their ultimate end, Most/many of our personal problems stem from one of these three areas. Juicy stuff.
Hi, Greenwoman- I am happy you felt safe here to bring up something you have not shared before. And I wish we didn't have to feel these things were things we needed to keep to ourselves. I think this is what I find so interesting and am exploring. What is it about us that feels this way? Why the holding back, the need to come to terms with it? What's the tweak trying to tell us?
Gillette:
I think that this is one of the most insightful posts that I have read in a long time. I think that you have a fantastic topic for a dissertation here. And, I agree with everything that you said. This is definitely food for thought...
Thanks, Sage. I do think lots..and after reading your blog, I see you do, too. Thanks for stopping by.
I'm one of those people who think, "I , uh, do respect that everyone has a right to their choices."
Busted.
What you say makes sense though and I hadn't thought of it that way really. I get paid to be a part of my patient's lives, I give of my time, my heart, my emotions, all in exchange for money. How is what I do any different?
But I still have this thing in the back of my head that tells me that sex is different. For me it's different because it involves such strong emotions. And yet I've had sex with men whose names I didn't even know, so it can't always be about love.
One of your commenters said something about sex for money not being any different than paying a therapist for counselling, which I thought was a good analogy. But in my mind there's still something different but I'm not able to put my finger on it.
You've given me lots to think about. Why is sex different for me? It involves trust but so does caring for patients and seeing a therapist. Is it just training? How I was raised? What society tells me everyday? The last one is probably closest to the truth.
Again, thanks for making me think.
I think you saying you're just a whore is like me saying I'm just a nurse. You obviously cared a great deal for your clients.
Hi, Deb..yes I did care alot for my clients. And...thinking makes life interesting, yes?
The sex angle is different due to the heavy cultural baggage. And a deeply held bias against adult fun & pleasure. And against women I might add. We also want to believe that it's only due to children, and adults should nobly 'abstain' from it all mostly, (now we even tell the young to abstain from sexual pleasure and intoxicated delights too), but it's the Calvinistic/Puritan/Protestant ethos & 'work ethic' in operation here. We normally scarcely believe that anyone could actually love their work, let alone do most work only loving. That's one of the assaults on our collective morality & imaginations. 'These people are having too much fun and they really should be really working at something productive'! Which is silly too, because we've got many multi-billion dollar service industries built up around supply us with some of the most decadent pleasures that even the Caesars would blush at to have at their finger tip command. The whole tourism industry would be one of these. There are many, many others, supplying mostly the middling classes & above with life's finer pleasures for a price. The economy would collapse in a heap without them actually. So what's the difference with sex? Why not? How is this qualitatively different than therapy? Cheers & Good Luck! 'VJ'
Hey, VJ...I'm going to continue pondering this one. There are so many facets to it, yes? And then there's the city built on sex and desire, Las Vegas, which makes tonsof money appealing to all that we, in normal life, eschew for a more "noble" existence, and want what happens in LV to stay there.
i think i've mentioned this before. i'm a bad bad business woman. had a catering company - and lost money because i couldn't deal with the money aspect. story of my life. give money when i can. can't ask for it when i should. not sure that makes sense. i can say for certain that i've never thought ew i could never do that isn't it so cool that you can or any permutation thereof. if i'd had some mentorship just about ten years ago, i would have done what you did with great pleasure. maybe i just wasn't ready and maybe i will yet. i agree so completely with your energetic exchange... too bad i've just heard about it now. or didn't figure it out on my own. or just can't deal with money. that's me. i truly wish we could go back to the barter system sans la monnaie.
me and money - difficuult.
but here we are in modern life where i do not belong.
gillette - i'm really pissed that people say shit to you that's ignorant.
i personally believe that you have a piece in the making for harper's or the new yorker. blow them away.
you're power is growing, you have the words, you have the experience, and you have the big picture - financial,emotional, psycholigical etc. and you have considered and considered.
but you've mentioned a big project. maybe a book? with your intelligence and sensitivity and experience... you could teach us all a thing or two.
i have the upmost respect for you. not that you need it.
i'm babbling. probably from too much on this day.
i'm not as clear as you but you remind me of who i wanted/want to be. (the whole picture.)
XXX
S
PS:I'll wax eloquent about mother another time.
Hey, S- Hope your trip was a good one. Thanks for all your kind words here. Truly appreciated. The money thing is definitely a trip to figure out. It's one that has been a challenge for me at times and I love watching those for whom is effortlessly flows.
I once read a book by a smart ass wise man, Stuart Wilde, which is called "The Trick To Money Is Having Some." Loved that.
"What is it about us that feels this way? Why the holding back, the need to come to terms with it? What's the tweak trying to tell us?"
I'm glad to share that aloud too. I think I feel its appropriate not to share stuff like that because of the law and because of the current social moral system. I am not ashamed of my choices...but I don't want to deal with others bs about it. I'd rather devote my energy to something else....and I prefer approval to disapproval to be quite frank. I don't want to deal with any tweaks about it internally....Mostly because I am not currently invested in such a relationship. Its not relevant at the moment.
If it were, I'd be just as avid about dealing with the tweaks as I am about dealing with my poly tweaks. I've got two men in my life I adore...and I'm slowly working my way into completely open lifestyle with everyone...seamless.
I would be relatively comfortable at this stage...not much tweakage to deal with...in manifesting a big chunk of my income as a courtesan after spending these many months reading your and others blogs.
I can remember several men from aff approaching me about this last year. I didn't pursue it because I was still mighty irritated with my TantraAss...but were M not in my life, I'd tweak my money fairy for some neat men to work with.
I guess that means that its not meant to be...because M feels far more meant to be.
Hi, Greenwoman... I understand the things you speak to here. I get tired of dealing with other people's shit..and this is lots what the post is about. I wasn't just talking to your tweaks, they are shared by most of us.
"it's a game of dust." - That is a beautiful turn of phrase there. Money and sex, yes. The two poles of our lives, in so many ways. How many great relationships sour over issues involving either or both?
The sex biz is interesting for sure. I think because sex is still a "taboo" (for the most part, in our society) we allow shadier, more underworld types to handle that trade. Ego ego ego. Indeed.
Hello, Quips and welcome here.
Thanks. They are definitely major relationship issues- probably the two biggest and the cause for many a breakup if common ground is not found. And often money problems spill over and effect sex problems as all of the relationship is connected.
There are definitely shady types involved in the larger scale enterprises, but many women, especially in the States and Europe, are reclaiming the business and taking out of the hands of those folk. Maybe that aspect will be much better as this movement continues.
I truly love this post, it describes all of the things people go up against when they choose to follow a path that is not of the norm! I am so thankful that some one as eloquent as you could finally phrase the hardships that one faces in this industry from society!
Thank you so much, Veronica. I'm glad you stopped by.
It's true that being on the edges has its challenges, yes? This is only one of them, wouldn't you agree? I wish you well in your business and that you find ways that make it work for you and work well!!!
Well, I've been thinking about your post all day. You've brought up so many interesting issues and thoughts. But here's what I think you should do next time someone says they could NEVER be a prostitute. You should look them up and down and just say "No, you couldn't." Or you could be more subtle and say "No, it's not a profession that most people could succeed in." hehe
PS I enjoy your blog very much.
Amy!! Hi..and thanks for stopping by. Good comeback lines, indeed.
I think part of the thing for most people is that there's so much of it that's not healthy and often its demeaning to women (trafficing and such). It's just not the same discussion when talking about someone who is a drug addict on the streets whos pimp takes all the money and someone who does escorting/companionship like many of us have. The word is the same for both, but they aren't the same experience.
And I'm glad you're enjoying the blog, thanks. I love yours and visit often.
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